I was 22 when I moved abroad alone for the first time.

I had finished college a few months earlier and decided that I wanted to take a gap year before entering the “real world.” So I chose to teach English in Toulouse, France for the school year.

Well, I loved it so much that one year turned into two. Then, after spending another six months at home trying to figure out my next step, I decided to move back to France–but this time to Paris to continue my studies.

A year and a half later, with one Masters degree under my belt, I once again moved abroad alone–this time to Brazil and without a job or Masters program lined up ahead of time.

I spent nine months in Rio looking for a job, teaching English and doing a bit of journalism here and there before I ultimately decided to move back to the U.S. The reason being that it was too hard to find a work visa in Rio for the type of career that I wanted to pursue (and this was before remote work was popular and I even considered it as an option).

Several years later (after I landed a remote job), I once again packed my bags and headed back to South America. I spent two months in Argentina, two months in Colombia, and another six months in Brazil before I decided to head to Spain (where I’ve been for the past year and a half).

My point? After having moved abroad (alone) to all of these countries, I’ve found that it’s one thing to travel – but living in a foreign country is a completely unique and life-changing experience.

Read on to find out why moving abroad alone is one of the best things you can do when you are young, free and independent.

1) You will become stronger and more self-reliant

If you can face the challenges that come along with moving alone to a foreign country, then you can do just about anything.

Moving abroad alone has made me far more self-sufficient and independent than I used to be.

For starters, I’m now totally comfortable doing things on my own. Go to a cafe by myself with nothing and no one but my own company? No problem. Head to the movies by myself? Sure! Couch surfing solo in the apartment of a total stranger? Check.

Whether you move abroad thanks to a job transfer or with no job and only a few hundred bucks in the bank, you’ll inevitably encounter problems along the way that you’ll be forced to solve on your own (especially if it’s the latter).

I know I dealt with my fair share of stressful situations, especially that first year in France…in case you’re interested, here are a few situations that I had to deal with and solve on my own:

The too-much-luggage problem

When I got to the airport to check my luggage, I found that I would have to pay some ridiculous fine due to my overweight bags (I did try to weigh my luggage before going to the airport, but clearly that didn’t work out so well!).

Luckily, some nice American guys, who were standing in line behind me, overheard the situation, and offered to carry my belongings in plastic (ugh) bags as their carry-ons for me. A bit of creativity, resourcefulness, and kindness from random strangers helped save me $500!

The not-planning-ahead problem

So I got to Germany (I was stopping over in Munich for Oktoberfest before heading on to Toulouse) without an international phone and realized that my couchsurfing host still hadn’t gotten back to me with his address.

For those of you who don’t know, couchsurfing is a website where people host travelers in their home–free of charge. It was my first time couchsurfing, and I learned the hard way to always get the address and phone number of the host before leaving the country (duh).

I still clearly remember this scenario: I ended up, with all of my ridiculous amounts of luggage in hand, on the streets of Munich, trying to figure out a game plan.

Fortunately, it wasn’t too long before I spied an Internet cafe, where I was able to look up the phone number of my couchsurfer who I then called using the phone of a random, kind German guy (thank goodness for nice strangers!).

He then helped me haul my luggage down the stairs of the subway. Why on earth’s name I decided to take the subway and not just hail a taxi is still beyond me. The things you will do to save a few dollars when you’re 22 years old…

But I finally made it! And proceeded to have several of the most memorable days of my life.

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Prost! While I had a rocky start, Oktoberfest ended up being totally worth it.

The where do I live problem

In France, I was teaching in a small town called Lannemezan, in the middle of nowhere, about an hour and a half from Toulouse. I chose to live in Toulouse and make the commute three days a week, because for me, commuting costs and waking up at 5AM once a week was a small sacrifice to make to live in La Ville Rose (Toulouse).  

The other Chilean teaching assistant from my town chose to live in Lannemezan. But I’m so glad that I lived in Toulouse, because I know that I would have had a completely different experience had I lived in that little small town.

The how do I meet people problem

I moved to Toulouse not knowing a single soul. That quickly changed when I joined the Facebook group dedicated to Teaching Assistants in Toulouse (thank goodness for Facebook!).

Before moving abroad, I have to admit that I was totally closed to the idea of meeting people online. This was before couchsurfing and meetup.com were really popular…before the advent of dating apps and the like. But when you move abroad not knowing anyone, you have to meet people somehow!

One of my first nights in Toulouse, I ended up going out with some new people I met through that Facebook group.

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One of my first nights out in Toulouse, with some new friends

Before arriving, I had also started speaking with an Irish girl from the Facebook group and we even talked about living together. In the end, it didn’t work out since she had to live in the small town where she worked (and commuting wasn’t an option for her).

But we met up in person when we were both in Toulouse and ended up becoming good friends. We even went traveling together during one of our many vacations — and just last year, we met up in Toulouse for a mini three-year reunion.

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Toulouse reunion at Café Pop – one of my favorite places to go out in Toulouse (only on Monday nights though!)

If I had come to Toulouse with a friend, I wouldn’t have been forced to get out there and use the Internet to my advantage like that – and I may never have made all the wonderful friends that I did.

The where do I live problem

When I moved to France, I also had nowhere to live (Airbnb didn’t exist then and, well, good luck trying to find a permanent living arrangement from another country). My sweet mother booked me a hotel for the first few weeks, but unfortunately, that still wasn’t enough time to find a place to live.

I ended up getting lucky and living with a friend, who I had met upon my arrival, for several weeks…before finding an apartment. The problem in France is that, in order to get an apartment, you must have a bank account set up. But in order to set up bank account, you have to have an apartment/address. You can see my predicament.

In the end, I sorted it out and ended up living with an Italian girl that I met through another friend I made on couchsurfing.  Let’s just say that it did not end too well…

The getting kicked out problem

Due to some serious miscommunication over an apartment guarantee (thank you language barrier), I found myself suddenly apartmentless in the middle of a trip to Spain.  My roommate, who had made plans to move out, informed me, via a Facebook message, that I would have to leave the apartment immediately – despite the fact that she knew I was out of the country!

Since flying back to Toulouse right away was out of the question, my friend and I spent the entire day trying to sort out how to get all of my belongings packed up within the next few days — without me being there (I had a lot of stuff too).

The getting kicked out problem (part 2)

I swear I’m not that difficult to live with! After getting kicked out of my apartment at the last minute, I was so desperate to find a new place that I ended up living with an older French lady. Bad decision.

It’s amazing how deceiving appearances can be. One minute she would be saying things like “Ahh tu es très mignon” (you are so cute) and the next minute, she would be yelling at me for accidentally leaving a broccoli crumb on the kitchen counter or for flushing the toilet while she was sleeping (yup, true stories).

Ultimately, the situation was just too difficult and I decided to look for another place to live, but I knew that if I informed her of my decision, she would go ballistic and probably kick me out of the apartment right away.

I had already paid for the entire first month’s rent and didn’t have anywhere else to live, so getting kicked out wasn’t the most favorable option. So I decided to wait until I had another apartment lined up to break the news that I was going to move out. Sounds reasonable right? Not to her. Two weeks into my stay, she found out about my plan by sneaking into my room while I was gone and snooping through my things (this was also something that she did on a regular basis…yet another reason why I had wanted to move out). Crazy, right?

After finding out that I was planning on leaving, she said that I could stay there until the end of the month. Tthen a few minutes later, she changed her mind, ordering me to leave her place that very minute. Amidst yelling at me, she started throwing my stuff out of the apartment – “Tu t’en vas” (you must leave) she repeated over and over.

But I told her that I wouldn’t leave until she gave me back the money I had paid for (two weeks worth of rent). Initially, she refused and I actually had to lock my bedroom door to keep her from literally throwing me out of the apartment. It was a pretty frightening situation and in retrospect, maybe not worth it (this woman could have been dangerous for all I know).

The neighbor also ended up getting involved and finally, she reluctantly handed over my money.  But not before cornering me against the wall and grabbing my ear – physical abuse, I tell you!

Once again, I was left homeless. This time, I went to a nearby motel where I spent the night. And I still managed to make it to a friend’s party that evening!

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I then spent a few days with a friend before landing my third apartment of the (school) year. Luckily the last situation ended on a good note. Sure, the guy I lived with left his nail clippings on the living room floor and smoked cigarettes in the apartment (not sure which is grosser)…but otherwise, no problems there.

The French bureaucracy problem

I’m convinced that if you can deal with French bureaucracy, you can deal with just about anything.

I learned that “no” does not actually mean “no” in France; it means, push me some more and I will say “yes.” You learn to be both patient and persuasive living in France.

I could go on but I won’t bore you with any more of my tribulations.  For more on my adventures in France, you can head to my other blog

What’s my point in all this? Moving abroad alone (especially the first time around) was incredibly exciting–but it didn’t come free of difficulties. Dealing with all of these issues, both minor and major, made me a much more confident and braver person. I now know that I can cope with pretty much anything as it comes along–and I can do it all on my own.

2) You’ll gain a new worldview 

When I was 16, I flew to New Zealand for a one-month exchange. I stayed with an awesome kiwi girl and went to school with her, attended parties, traveled a bit.

It was an eye-opening experience for me. Coming from an all-girls prep-school where everyone’s number one concern was piling their workload with Advanced Placement classes and getting accepted to Ivy Leagues, here were people who looked at life a bit differently.

Getting into a good college wasn’t the only thing that mattered. I was fascinated by how different the classes and school were from my own, as well as the lifestyle. Even through this short three-week immersion, I came to realize how different the US was from the rest of the world. I left craving more.

It’s impossible not to see the world in a new way after living abroad.  I also see the impact my home country has made on the countries in which I have lived.  And I see the US itself in a totally different way than I used to–for both the good and the bad.

I’ll admit: Growing up, and even in college, it’s not something that I thought about too much. But when I moved abroad, and saw how the majority of the world lives, I began to realize just how fortunate I really was.

In addition to greater appreciation for the things that I have, there are these little things about the US that I value more now.  Like the wide grocery store aisles and unlimited options; the efficiency; the good customer service; the friendly people; the high salaries and good jobs; the ease of starting a business; the unlimited water (and soda and coffee) refills at restaurants; the healthy food selection; American breakfasts etc.

And of course there are other things that make it hard to readjust…like the lack of culture/history/beautiful architecture…all of the stupid rules (that police actually enforce)…the poor healthcare and education systems…the mediocre/nonexistent transportation systems and how spread-out everything is–no longer can I just hop on a train and be in a totally different country and culture in a few hours. And worst of all, all of the racism and violence.

Talking with foreigners also helps you to see your country through another set of eyes. For instance, quite a few French people have told me that they found Americans to be fake and superficial–that they were so nice to everybody but then would suddenly fall off the face of the earth.

They found the ties between Americans to be very weak. Whereas in France, people have their friends and don’t care to branch out much; but when they do make new friends, they’re for life.

In what seems to be direct contrast, the Brazilians see Americans as cold because of the lack of physical contact (ie: no PDA, we don’t kiss each other on the cheek upon greeting, we’re not as affectionate…), the fact that we’re incredibly independent (in contrast to the dependent Brazilians, who live with their parents until they get married) and not as welcoming.

Sure, you could learn a bit about these things by reading or by talking to foreigners in your home country–but living abroad, you can actually see the difference yourself. You’ll likely return home with both a newfound appreciation for your own country, as well as disappointment in how you feel things should be or wish they were.

Traveling is like having a fling with someone. It’s more superficial and surface-level. You see all the wonderful things from the tourist perspective, but probably not how things really are. Living abroad is like being in a relationship…you’re able to actually soak up the culture and experience the true depth of a country; you’ll see it for both the good and the bad.

Now, I see France as so much more than just the Eiffel Tower, the Louvre and baguettes. And I see Brazil as so much more than just bikinis, beaches, soccer and Carnival. I understand all the characteristics and idiosyncrasies of these incredible countries…and how the US compares.

3) You can learn a new language 

“To have a second language is to possess a second soul,” Charlemagne once said. And I truly believe that.

Speaking another language changes your way of thinking.  Like your understanding of the country in which you reside, you will become someone of greater depth.

At first, being thrown into a culture where you have to speak the language will be challenging. You’ll struggle to find the right words to express yourself. And when you’re frustrated or angry, you’ll find it even harder to get words out.

Getting into an argument or fight with someone in a language that isn’t your own is really not fun. But if you can learn to put your foot down in a foreign language, then it will be that much easier to do in your native tongue when you need to.

Need I add that it is great mental exercise (and being multilingual has numerous cognitive benefits, like the prevention of Alzheimer’s, for one!).

Learning another language also helps you truly understand the culture you’re in. You will discover new words that have no English translationbut that make sense given the culture.

For instance, the French phrase “la douleur exquise” is a phrase that describes that gut-wrenching pain of wanting something you can’t have. As a whole, the French are a pretty gloomy, pessimistic bunch (this has been proven on more than one occasion). Knowing that, this depressing phrase seems to make a bit more sense, doesn’t it?

In contrast, I found the relaxed, melodic Brazilian Portuguese sound to fit perfectly with the laid-back Brazilian lifestyle. “Fique tranquila” and “relaxa” (relax) people would often say to me when I looked the slightest bit stressed about something.

I took French for many years in middle school and high school, but I never really learned it until I moved to France. Only after living abroad and speaking with natives did I learn the slang and how to actually speak like a French person (or try to anyway!).

I remember, at the beginning of one of the first English classes I taught in France, one of the students requested that I say something in French. So I said “Je ne sais pas” — pronounced just a typical American would – “je neh say pah”.  They all laughed and thought it was the funniest thing ever and I had no idea why…I thought it must have been my cute accent perhaps.

Despite my many years of French and even having taken a French course at the Alliance Francaise in New York that previous summer, I still sounded like a total idiot. I would later find that I was actually supposed to speak it much faster and blend the words, so it sounded a bit more like “Shay pah”.

Another example: In French class, I always learned to say “nous.” But when I moved to France, I learned that few people actually say “nous.” In colloquial speech, most people say “on” instead.

You get the picture…living in a country, you get to learn things that you just don’t learn in a typical language course.

Personally, I think that learning a new language is one of the best things about living abroad. I loved being surrounded by French when living in France, Portuguese when living in Brazil, Italian when in Italy and Spanish when in Colombia, Argentina and Spain.

4) You become a more interesting, well-rounded person

When I went back to the US after spending nearly five years abroad (on and off), I felt way behind my peers. I hadn’t accumulated all of the professional experience that they had. Instead, I was just starting out in my career.

But I had something that many people didn’t have: experience living abroad and a unique worldview. Good stories and amazing memories? Got plenty of ’em.

5) You get to be the gringo

Okay, this is obviously not one of the mainreasons why you should live abroad. But I’ll admit it: I liked feeling a bit unique and special.

Sometimes, you can even use the dumb gringo card to your advantage. Say, if you’re trying to do something a bit sneaky, like board a train without a ticket. You can just say “oops, sorry! I’m American…I don’t really speak French”…Works like a charm (Got me a free ticket once!).

I also loved being surrounded by foreigners all the time. And then when I was around other Americans, I felt a special bond, simply for sharing the same culture in a foreign land.

Plus, being the outsider is an invaluable experience that everyone should go through. Once you come back to the US, you’ll emphasize more with foreigners in the US, as many of them struggle to adapt and speak this foreign language called English.

6) You create lasting friendships around the world

When you move to a foreign country by yourself, without the comforts of friends and family close by, you’re forced to branch out and interact with people that you would probably never meet otherwise.

Having friends from various countries will also encourage you to look at things with a more wordly perspective than you would if you were with your American friends back home.

It’s the blessing and the curse that comes with living abroad. I love that I now have friends all over the world; but at the same time, it means that I only get to see some friends once every five years or so — if I’m lucky.

7) You get to date a foreigner 

Dating someone from another country opens up your eyes to an entirely different culture and background from your own.

When I dated a French guy (in Toulouse), he took me home to meet his family and friends several times to a tiny village in Provence. While there, I was introduced to some of the most amazing food I had ever had in my life and was able to further enhance my understanding and appreciation of French culture.

Your partner will help you to look at your native country with a new set of eyes. And you’ll have so much fun teaching each other things (such as your respective languages) and sharing national pastimes and traditions.

Whether you are casually dating several guys at once or you’ve fallen head over heels for a local, you’ll quickly discover that the dating rules are different in each country.

For example, Swedish and British men don’t tend to strike up conversations with people they don’t know…Brazilian men are pretty much the opposite! You’ll be forced to adapt to the new dating scene, however it may be.

Sure, at times dating a foreigner can be harder and more frustrating than dating someone of your own nationality, but it is well worth it. You’ll become a more open-minded person and a better partner overall after cultural conflict forces you to compromise.

And if you eventually get married and/or have kids with your foreign partner…the list goes on! Like raising multilingual, cultured children.

8) You get to share your traditions and adopt new ones

During my second year in Toulouse, my American friend and I held a Thanksgiving dinner at my apartment (or the apartment I shared with an Italian guy). About 30 people ended up coming, all squeezed into my (or our) tiny living room.

Some people brought wine, others brought baguettes (always good choices in France) and others came with homemade dishes to represent their own cultures. The funniest part? Despite the fact that we were celebrating Thanksgiving, my co-host and I were the only Americans present.  

I loved that we were sharing one of our major cultural traditions with a bunch of non-Americans.

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Some of the Thanksgiving crew (representing Spain, England, France…)

During my second year in Toulouse, my roommate and I threw a lot of parties at our apartment. They would get absolutely packed with people. Suffice it to say that they were a lot of fun. See photos below for proof:

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A crémaillère at our apartment
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The parties chez nous (at our place) were legendary.

We liked to throw theme parties – which didn’t seem to be very common in France.  Most people wouldn’t dress up (boo), but occasionally people would and there would be some pretty awesome outfits. Like that 80s party we had…

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Introducing themed parties to France (this one was 80s)!

We also introduced the wonderful games of flip cup and beer pong to our French (and other non-American) friends.

9) You’ll become more open-minded

I remember when my French boyfriend told me that his parents were still together–but they weren’t married. I wasn’t sure that I had understood him correctly. Why would they not have gotten married, I thought to myself.

Coming from a conservative, WASPy town in Connecticut, where all of my schoolmates’ parents were married (or divorced), I had never known anything else.

I would later find that it’s actually quite common in Europe for a couple to stay together many years and raise children together–but never tie the knot.

While I used to see this as strange, I now see absolutely nothing wrong with it. It made me realize that so many people in the US see marriage as the ultimate end goal. So many people put pressure on their relationships and feel that they have to get married by a certain time.

But why should two people have to sig papers and declare their love under the law if they want to be together forever? Why should that be the ultimate end goal?

Don’t get me wrong, I think marriage is a beautiful thing and I would love to one day get married myself. But I also recognize that it’s not for everyone and now have equal respect for those who choose to never get married.

I also remember the first time I heard about couchsurfing (from a fellow teaching assistant, just before going to France). What?! You are going to stay on the couch of a random stranger?? I thought the idea was absurd. But once testing it out myself, I realized that it was generally quite safe, as long as you use good judgment and pick someone who has good reviews!

Bottom line? Living abroad has allowed me to try these new experiences and meet people from different backgrounds, which has made me a much more open-minded and less judgemental person.

10) You’ll learn more about yourself

I learned that not everyone loves change, adventure and spontaneity.  But that I do. And in fact, I live for it.

I learned that I’m not someone that likes to plan things out too much; I think the beauty of life is letting the unexpected happen and just going along for the ride.

I learned that while I am a relatively shy and reserved person, I also love meeting new people and socializing. I may not be the loudest person in the room, but I no longer feel that I have to apologize for that. And I will definitely stand up for myself if I am being treated like a doormat or with disrespect. So don’t mess with me!

When you step outside of your comfort zone and encounter tough situations (which tend to be inevitable when you live abroad), both your strengths and weaknesses will emerge. Not only will you get to know yourself better, but you will also grow up much faster and likely evolve into a different person than if you were to have just stayed put in your home country.

Finally, you are sure to acquire one trait that will increase your overall happiness and prove to be useful your entire life: adaptability.

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18 Comments

  1. Hey!

    My name is Luciana, and I came to your blog randomly looking for stuff on the internet. I’m Brazilian, but like you, I have lived in England, in California and I am now on way to to France next month… You write so beautifully! It’s an easy reading, charming… And very personal. I feel like I know you! Loved it! And I can identify with so much that you write. Next month I’m going to spend an entire year abroad! I’ts the first time that I’m going alone and for such a long time! I’m going to live in Marseille! Finally, just wanted to say that I loved everything that I found here, and keep on writing! And good luck with your “história” in Brazil! Hope you come back! By the way, I’m mineira and loved the post about Ouro Preto. It really is an adorable little city! I left feeling the same way you did! Boa sorte fofa! Espero que dê tudo certo pra você ! Beijos!

    1. Thanks Luciana! I love hearing positive comments like this- makes me happy! I definitely hope to go back to Brazil soon. I also have a blog about living in France – I lived in France for 4 years – it is americainenfrance.blogspot.com if you are interested in checking it out. Perhaps it can prepare you a bit for what is to come! Good luck in France – and your English is amazing by the way – parabéns! Beijos

    2. Dear Mary,Iam a bangladeshi(Asian) girl,18.I belong to a developing country.I will be completing my Hsc exam this april and then I am planning to move Australia for my higher education. So basically I am so nervous and kind of scared leaving my homeland.tbh I have never lived without my mom. Like never.but in Australia I have my aunt and her family. I will be staying with them.I was browsing Internet about leaving homeland and caught up this blog and saw your post.Thankyou very much dear.trust me it really encouraged me.I know it won’t be that easy for me but after reading this I truly believe that I will surely shake off my fear.your writing really inspired me a lot.I saw your pictures and it is needless to mention that you are beautiful!I request you to share more and more of your experiences with us.And I would be highly honored if you would reply to my comment.Thankyou 🙂

  2. Hello, i enjoyed reading your blog thank you for sharing. I too feel quite at easy going to a cinema/ cafe by myself and have done 3 short trips by myself abroard so far.
    May i ask, before you left at 22 to go abroard, had you saved up untill that point or did your funds for travel come from your job teaching in France?
    I’m currently studying and working but only enough to cover food and book costs with little left over it doesn’t seem to be enough to be so well traveled as you have been and i’d rather set out with more financial security as like you talked about, the unexpected can happen and you cant control everything.

    Thanks so much.
    Stu

    1. Hi Stu – I’m sorry for the delay in my response here! When I moved to France, I did have some savings to rely on, which I found necessary only because I commuted and traveled a bit around Europe, both of which got expensive (especially with all of the vacation time that France has! :)) . But I do know people who lived just off of the salaries that they had, so it’s definitely possible to live a more frugal lifestyle. And you can definitely take up some side work teaching English, which many teaching assistants do. Regardless, I would suggest having a bit of savings if possible ($5000 should be plenty if you have a salary like I did).

  3. Dear Mary,Iam a bangladeshi(Asian) girl,18.I belong to a developing country.I will be completing my Hsc exam this april and then I am planning to move Australia for my higher education. So basically I am so nervous and kind of scared leaving my homeland.tbh I have never lived without my mom. Like never.but in Australia I have my aunt and her family. I will be staying with them.I was browsing Internet about leaving homeland and caught up this blog and saw your post.Thankyou very much dear.trust me it really encouraged me.I know it won’t be that easy for me but after reading this I truly believe that I will surely shake off my fear.your writing really inspired me a lot.I saw your pictures and it is needless to mention that you are beautiful!I request you to share more and more of your experiences with us.And I would be highly honored if you would reply to my comment.And English is not my native language that’s why I am also worried for my English writing. Is it good enough?
    Thankyou 🙂

    1. Hi there! I’m so sorry for my delayed response here. I’m really glad that you liked my article! And thank you for the compliment(s)! The hardest part is anticipation – moving abroad (alone) will allow you to see just how strong you are and it will make you realize that you can handle just about any challenge that comes your way. If I can do it, I’m sure that you can too! 🙂

  4. Loving this article so much! Your writing is whitty and inspiring. I am flirting with the idea of moving aboard! I would love to ask if you think I should get a work permit first and try out jobs while taking an extended stay abroad or wing it and move along with my savings and then find a job later. It would be great to hear your advice based on your experience. Warm wishes!

    1. Hi T.M. Lily – sorry for the delayed response here! I’m glad that you liked the article! Personally, I think winging it is often the best – you can always find something when you move there (if nothing else, teaching English should be easy to find). I would definitely suggest moving with a sufficient amount of savings though if you don’t have any job lined up. If you move to Southeast Asia, $1,000 per month should be more than enough – while obviously Europe is quite a bit more expensive (although better right now with the exchange rate!). Feel free to shoot me an e-mail if you have any more questions!

      1. Loved the article! I’m considering taking a gap year and moving to Germany. I am 19 and I don’t have anything saved or even a job right now. I am looking and trying to save as much and as fast as possible. Any advice?

  5. Hi! I loved your post! I am a 18 year old Hungarian student and i still have a year in high school. I want to go to university up north(Denmark/Finnland) but i am a bit unsure and worried. My English is relatively good so that won’t be a problem. There are some superb schools here as well but i want to gain some experience and get to know the world, having a foreign diploma is just a plus. I am afraid of being lonely if i leave and i find it very hard to organize everything from here without help. What should i do? Should i just study here and go to a master programme a few years later? I just don’t want to regret staying. Thanks in advance!

    1. Hey Tamas! I’m so sorry for the delay in reply here. I imagine that you have made a decision by now, so not sure how helpful my advice will be…but it sounds like you know in your heart what you should do. I think that you will always regret the things you don’t end up doing that you want to…so I say go for it. I actually wrote an article on this several years ago: https://www.elitedaily.com/life/why-youll-only-regret-the-things-you-dont-do-and-never-the-things-youve-done

      But if you didn’t take this opportunity, then don’t worry! There will always be more opportunities down the road. 🙂 Just don’t wait too long to do something that you want to do. Life’s too short!

  6. “One of the worst things for me about coming back to the US is having to speak English on a daily basis – I now miss speaking French and Portuguese so. much.”
    Come on, you live in New York. It’s one of the most multilingual cities in the world, of course you can find some people to speak French and Portuguese with

  7. Thank you so much for writing this post.I’m hoping to study abroad next year and it’s the first time I’ll be moving away from home. I was afraid whenever I thought about living all alone in a foreign country but after reading this I’m not anymore.Wish you all the best!

  8. I’m so happy I came upon your article! You’re so inspiring! I am currently going back and forth with the idea of moving abroad from California to Gold Coast Queensland Australia! I’ve never even been there before. I’ve always tickled the thought of moving there but was never serious about looking into it until now! I currently just met a few guys from there and we talked about it for hours how its very similar to the central coast here in California where I currently live which made me feel more comfortable. I just feel like maybe it’s meant to be! Recently just got out of a relationship so I don’t have anything holding me back anymore, nor do I have anything going for me here really anyways. I almost feel stuck in my hometown. I’ve left the nest once and moved to Los Angeles but I didn’t last there very long. I just don’t want to get comfortable here in my hometown, I’m soo scared that I’ll never leave if I don’t do it soon. The thought of moving 16-18 hours away from home seriously scares me, but I almost like the feeling! I don’t really know who I am, or what I want to do with my life and I think something like this would totally change my life for the better. I’m so ready for a big change in my life. Now more than ever is the best time for me to do something like this. OH, so I’m also pretty quiet and shy when I first meet people but I really do love meeting new people! So, I’m nervous about moving alone and not knowing a single soul and having a hard time meeting people and making friends. How did you adapt to that? Social media can only go so far.
    Anyways, if you have any advice for me, I would love to hear it!
    Looking forward to talking with you soon girl! ❤

    1. Hey Jenna! I’m so sorry for the delay in reply here. Did you end up moving to Australia?? I say go for it! So, I’m not gonna lie…I think that going through some sort of program (like I did teaching English in France) always makes it easier to meet people and make friends. But it’s definitely possible! Go to coffeeshops and bring your laptop or a book. In Medellin, I met so many other people by doing this. Join the expat groups. Go to meetup and networking events. Join the gym.

      You’d be surprised at all the ways you can meet people! I really think that everyone should experience that fear of moving somewhere and not knowing anyone – you become stronger because of it. I was scared too when I first moved abroad without knowing anyone! And now I honestly feel like I could move anywhere and be okay /make friends. So get out there and conquer those fears -and the world! You got this. 🙂

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